This is not a conversation between two people. It is one manifestation of a contagious attitude that, simply put, translates to: special needs = less than human.
Unfortunately such attitudes are all too common. They are not confined to the school yard, they are present everywhere.
Case in point: popular music. Check out 30H!3 song against Hellen Keller, Natasha Beddingfeild’s song comparing ADD to writer's block, the Black Eyed Peas “Let’s Get Retarded” or the Who’s words for Pinball Wizard.
Have you ever thought about what causes the difference between feeling welcome or not feeling welcome? I feel the greatest difference lies in the power of acceptance. Acceptance is a topic that we don't spend much time thinking about or routinely dwelling on. Most people don't realize how much the act of accepting and being accepted affects them. Acceptance can improve the quality of life and the lives of others. It is a basic human need.
Conversely, rejection hurts! The effects from rejection can be significant, long-lasting . . . and for some people, permanent. The act of accepting others for who they are and what they can contribute is an act of healing. Actions do speak louder than words. Making the decision to accept others is somewhat risky, but it can be personally liberating and rewarding. Taking the risk to accept can make all the difference in the world for us and for others.
It’s up to people who know better to correct those who don’t. Advocate for sensitivity.
Erika Tencer is co-founder of Empowerment - A Special Needs Network and a therapeutic recreation specialist. She can be reached at 1.514.603.4446.
Jason Goldsmith is co-founder of Empowerment - A Special Needs Network and the founder of Big Blue Hug which raises awareness with its story telling art.
Visit http://www.thebigbluehug.com/ to learn more about Big Blue Hug art and about PictureTalking intervention and workshops.
